Women Veterans: Memorial Day

by Sandee Rodriguez | May 25, 2026 | Invisible Warriors

This Memorial Day, let’s talk about the women who gave everything.

On Memorial Day, we line the streets.
We hang the flags.
We say the words.

“Thank you for your service.”

And we mean it. At least, we think we do.

But here’s what we’re not saying.

Women veterans have served in every war this country has fought. From the Revolutionary War to Iraq and Afghanistan. You bled on the same ground. You carried the same weight. You came home — and this country didn’t know what to do with you.

On the one day we set aside to honor the fallen and the brave — most people don’t even picture a woman. That is not accidental. That is a pattern.

The image of a veteran in this country is male. It has always been male. The VA was built for men. The statues are mostly men. The stories we tell are mostly men.

You raised your hand anyway.

You signed on the dotted line. You said you would give your life for this country. You meant it. You did it.

Some of you didn’t come home.

And those of you who did? You came home to employers who didn’t recognize your service. Communities that looked right past you. A system that was never built to hold you.

We see you.

Invisible Warriors is built by women, for women, with the understanding that belonging is not soft. It is everything. We believe that peer connection — women helping women — is one of the most powerful forces in the world. Not a program. Not a checklist. A community that knows your name before you finish your sentence.

You don’t need saving. You need what you earned.

Respect. Honor. A seat at the table that’s been at the head of this country’s defense since the beginning.

Memorial Day is not just for the men. It never was.

So this year, when you hang your flag and say your words — look a little further. Learn a name you don’t know. Support an organization fighting for women who served. Write a check. Show up.

Because “thanks for your service” is the beginning. Not the end.

It’s time we showed our gratitude with something deeper than words.

Visit us at invisiblewarriors.org

Because you don’t have to do it alone — we are here with you.

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Renew and Rise Retreat April 2026

by Sandee Rodriguez | May 20, 2026 | Events, Invisible Warriors

Renew and Rise Retreat April 2026

Every now and then, you have to stop running and just breathe.

That is exactly what nine incredible women veterans did April 17 – 19, 2026, when Invisible Warriors headed to Crest View Lodge and Venue atop Lookout Mountain in Fort Payne, Alabama, for our first annual Renew and Rise Retreat. Crest View was a wonderful choice – it was a beautiful location, deer wandered around, and the staff were friendly, helpful, and supportive. In spite of all the signs around the property, warning us about bears, they didn’t show up. Thankfully!

"Y'all, it was exactly what we needed."

Friday Arrival

From the moment we checked in Friday afternoon, the whole energy shifted. No schedules to chase, no obligations pulling us in ten directions. Just women who get it, in a gorgeous private setting, with nothing on the agenda but taking care of ourselves and each other. We settled in, connected, and sat down together for the first of many meals we would share that weekend.

Saturday: Rest, Renewal, and Real Talking

Saturday morning started with a continental breakfast, Tai Chi on the mountain, and then a sit-down breakfast for anyone who wanted to keep going. That became the rhythm of the weekend, and it was a good one.

We had a health program focused on the best ways to take care of your body, along with some time set aside just for pampering. Treat yourself, for real. Then came a talk about decluttering your life, your body, and your mind, which hit a lot of us right where we needed it.

After lunch, women had a choice between hiking in the beautiful park right next to the venue or working on an art project. Both groups came back glowing.

Then came a surprise none of us had planned for on the agenda. The women pulled together a birthday celebration for our founder Nancy Becher, complete with cake, ice cream, and a chorus of happy birthday that probably echoed off the mountain. It was one of those moments that reminded us exactly why we do this.

That evening we had dinner together and watched Served Like a Girl in the lodge’s movie room. Later we played dominoes and Phase 10 like we had something to prove, and the competition was fierce. The laughter was even fiercer.

"If you have not seen that film with a room full of women veterans, I highly recommend it. There was not a dry eye, and there did not need to be."

Sunday: Reflecting and Sharing

Saturday night’s dominos ran until 2 in the morning. Nobody complained. At 6:30, every single one of them was up to watch the sun rise over the mountains. Then they went back to bed, and yours truly had to play reveille to get them up at 10. Some things never change.

Sunday morning brought breakfast, and then something really special: time to reflect, journal, and share our takeaways from the weekend. That circle of voices, those women being honest about what they were carrying and what they were leaving behind, that is what Invisible Warriors is all about.

"Our speakers were women veterans, which is always the most powerful thing we can offer each other. No one has to explain the context. No one has to translate the experience. You just talk, and the room already knows."

No uniforms. No ranks. No judgment.

Just support. That is what we promised, and that is what we delivered.

With Deep Gratitude

None of this would have been possible without the extraordinary generosity of Drake State Community & Technical College. Their grant funding covered a tremendous portion of this retreat, and we are so deeply grateful. We want to especially recognize Azra, Neoka, and Susan, whose belief in Invisible Warriors and in the women we serve goes far beyond writing a check. They show up for us, they champion what we are building, and they make it possible for our women to have weekends like this one. Thank you, from the bottom of our hearts.

"If you are a woman veteran who has never been to an IW retreat, that needs to change. This is what we are here for: not just the resources and the advocacy, but the moments where you remember you are not alone."

You never were alone, and you never will be as long as we have each other.

Renew and Rise. We did exactly that.

With gratitude,
Nancy, Founder and President of Invisible Warriors

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Women Who Shape the State 2026

by Sandee Rodriguez | Feb 14, 2026 | Invisible Warriors

Women Who Shape the State 2026

Alabama’s future is brighter because of the women who pour their talent, determination and hearts into building it. Brick by brick, literally and figuratively, they strengthen our communities and create lasting change across the state.

Like the trailblazers who came before them, the 2026 Women Who Shape the State class represents a diverse group of educators, innovators, healthcare champions, business leaders, nonprofit founders and community advocates — all united by a shared commitment of creating a better Alabama.

Whether improving access to vital services, championing young people, supporting families, founding groundbreaking businesses or enriching Alabama’s cultural landscape, each woman has made a lasting mark on the people and communities they serve. And it shows — as it was their own communities who nominated them for this honor after witnessing firsthand the progress they’ve made in helping to drive our state forward.

This is Alabama will celebrate these remarkable leaders at the Women Who Shape the State luncheon, presented by Inline Lighting, on Thursday, March 5, 2026, at The Club in Birmingham.

This year’s keynote speaker is Lulu Gribbin — high school student, shark attack survivor, adaptive athlete and youth advocate — whose bravery and determination has inspired people across the state and around the globe. AL.com’s Ivana Hrynkiw will serve as host for the event.

Join us as we celebrate the women shaping Alabama’s future.

Credit: This is Alabama post

WHNT Channel 19 Interview

Why does Invisible Warriors exist? “Nancy often accompanied her husband, Ed Becher, a retired Marine Corps Master Sergeant, to his VA appointments and American Legion meetings. She said it was there that she learned of the unique challenges women veterans face, despite never serving herself.” From an interview on WHNT Channel 19 in Huntsville featuring her before the awards ceremony. You can view the article and video of the interview HERE.

Nancy’s Experience

Several months ago, I received a notification that I had been nominated for one of the 25 women who shaped the state of Alabama in 2026. Ed and I went down to Birmingham on Wednesday, March 4, to stay overnight so we could arrive on time the next day for the event because we live 2 1/2 hours away.

When we walked into the room on Thursday, we were greeted by about 150 men and women. The first part of the day was a networking event where we all talked and introduced ourselves. We enjoyed hors d’oeuveres and champagne while we got acquainted.

Then we all went out and had our picture taken as a group. After the picture, we sat at tables in a different room to enjoy a nice lunch.

Each woman being honored had previously had a video created about her and her accomplishments that also told about their organization. There were teachers, nonprofits, government officials, corporation managers – it was a very diverse group of women. As each video was shown, the woman being honored went up to the front to receive her award.

It was an awesome time with all of us becoming friends with each other, congratulating each other, talking about and celebrating each other’s efforts, and remarking on how much the State of Alabama needed each one of us. It was an incredible experience!

Nancy Becher is the Founder and Executive Director of Invisible Warriors, where her work is rooted in impact, service, and hope. Her proudest achievement is establishing the Huntsville Military Women’s Community Center, including flagship programs such as the Recharge, Reconnect, Remember Retreats and the Come to the Table Resource Workshops. To date, these programs have served more than 300 women, including participants who have moved from crisis to connection—one woman from the first retreat had previously been flagged for suicide by the VA and now finds hope and community through the program.

Guided by the belief to “allow yourself to feel the lows, then reorient toward positivity,” she draws inspiration from those who choose courage over despair. Becher hopes her legacy is one of empowering women veterans and other women to lead with courage, value their voices, and access the opportunities they deserve—building sustainable programs, strong communities, and lasting impact that honors the contributions of women who served.

Nancy will be highlighted on the This is Alabama Facebook page HERE on Tuesday, February 24, 2026 with PeggyLee Wright. Congratulations, Nancy!

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Women Who Shape the State 2026

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I Didn’t Know This Was Trauma Until Years Later

by Sandee Rodriguez | Jan 26, 2026 | Invisible Warriors

I Didn’t Know This Was Trauma Until Years Later – Amanda’s Story

I was in Turkey for Operation Northern Watch. We were told plainly: not everyone wants us there. Watch your back, especially off base.

At the time, I thought I understood where my trauma came from. I knew the sexual assault I experienced there left deep marks, and it did. I never questioned that.

What I didn’t recognize, what I brushed aside for years, was how much being in a hazard duty zone shaped me, too.

I was the only consistent medical person deployed with my squadron. We had two flight surgeons assigned to our air wing, but each was only there for about two weeks. Over the course of the deployment, I had a flight surgeon for a total of four weeks, while other squadrons deploying to Turkey and Saudi Arabia had a flight surgeon with them for the entire time.

That meant continuity fell to me. The responsibility didn’t rotate. If something happened, I was the one who knew the people, the patterns, the histories. I was the one always there.

It wasn’t a declared combat zone. There were no daily firefights, no clear front lines. So I minimized it. I told myself it “didn’t count.” Compared to others, I thought I had no right to name it.

But living with constant warnings, constant vigilance, and the unspoken understanding that danger was always possible rewired something in me. The scanning. The tension. They are never fully relaxing. The way my body learned to stay alert, even when my mind tried to move on.

Years later, I realized my hypervigilance didn’t come from one moment alone. It came from existing in a place where safety was conditional, danger was unspoken but understood, and responsibility never truly turned off.

I didn’t know then that this, too, was trauma.

That delayed understanding is one of the reasons I am part of Invisible Warriors. I believe deeply in the mission of Invisible Warriors. Too many military women and women veterans carry experiences they minimize, dismiss, or don’t recognize as trauma until years later.

Invisible Warriors exists to name those experiences, to create space where women can unpack what followed them home, and to remind us that trauma doesn’t have to be visible, extreme, or immediate to be real.

I didn’t know this was trauma until years later.

No woman should have to wait that long to understand what shaped her or to know she’s not alone.

I Didn’t Know This Was Trauma Until Years Later

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Deborah Mallow and the Gratitude Jar

by Sandee Rodriguez | Dec 30, 2025 | Invisible Warriors

Deborah Mallow and the Gratitude Jar

Episode overview

In this episode, Deborah Mallow, a motivational speaker and “ray of sunshine,” shares practical ways to choose happiness, interrupt negative thinking, and bring more light into everyday life. A central theme is the power of simple tools—like a gratitude jar—to retrain the brain to notice what is going right instead of what is wrong.

About Deborah Mallow

Deborah is a positive energy and success coach who helps people shift out of self-sabotage and chronic negativity.
She is the author of “6 Steps to Fewer Days That Suck,” where she offers stories, strategies, and science-backed tips for cultivating a more uplifting mindset.

Key topics discussed

Negativity bias and the brain: How the brain’s ancient focus on problems and danger creates more “bad days” than necessary, and what it takes to interrupt that pattern.
Being personally considerate: Treating yourself with the same kindness you offer others and replacing harsh self-talk with more supportive thoughts.
Small daily practices: Simple habits—like dancing to a favorite song or using a “make me smile” box—that help your nervous system shift toward calm, joy, and resilience.

The gratitude jar practice

Deborah explains the gratitude jar: writing one good thing each day on a slip of paper and dropping it into a jar to create a visible record of what’s going well.
On tough days, pulling out a few slips offers concrete reminders that life holds many moments of joy, connection, and progress, even when current circumstances feel heavy.

Practical takeaways

Start with one small shift: notice when your mind spirals into worst-case scenarios and gently ask, “What would I rather be thinking right now?”
Create your own happiness tools: a gratitude jar, a smile box, or a short list of “go-to” feel-good activities to use when your mood dips.
Remember that you have more control over your daily happiness than you think; your choices and focus can steadily lead to fewer days that “suck.”

Deborah Mallow and the Gratitude Jar

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